Miss Independent

Almost every girl wants to be independent. Motivated. Self-sufficient. Accomplished.

At the very least, this is the epitome of the modern woman. The ideal.

Since I was very young I have struggled with this ideal. Particularly since I have always been a dreamer; in possession of a mind that has a hard time limiting itself to small projects. Little side deals had very little appeal. Big dreams seemed like the life for me.

If I am totally honest with myself, I'd love to be the active, business-running, political campaigning, self-motivated woman walking down the streets of NYC, briefcase in hand, and the world at her feet.

We see the picture of this strutting woman in every magazine, she is the female protagonist in almost every story, she helps the male protagonist to save the day.

Yes. She is Miss Independent.

But this question remains: Is this ideal, city-slicker, world-conquering woman really the woman that we all identify with? Is she who we, if we as women really asked ourselves, the woman that we want to be?

I would contend that despite the idyllic peek we get of her in all the latest movies and T.V. shows, Miss Independent isn't all that she is made out to be.

In fact, I would argue that Miss Independent doesn't feel as in control, happy, or world-conquering as the media might portray her. Quite on the contrary, this character clings to her independence because it is the only thing that keeps her company when she is up late at night. When every day comes to a close, that very independence that has propelled her headlong into the world of business, law, or politics, is the very thing that keeps her lying awake at night.

My question is this: How many of us would actually want to be the modern woman if we knew her whole story? If we understood that her life isn't perfect? 

This question is not posed to discourage women from working. It's not intended to rebuke ambition or to cause women to question whether it is right for them to have a career. (I have strong career goals and aspirations myself.)

 But I simply ask it because I can't help but wonder if we have idolized this modern woman, Miss Independent.

I am asking for responses. What do you define as the modern woman? And how does this square with Biblical womanhood? 

Those are my questions. They are very simple...and I want to hear your story. So please write. I want to know what kind of woman you are.